We can either ACT or be Acted upon!

So I just wanted to stop by and throw up another blog about my progress in making a change to my self. Stephen covey starts his book talking about “Inside-Out” referring to us as individuals. How we should start with ourself before we look at any one else. Whether we are right or wrong. I can't help to think that he is so right. We live in a day and age where we let so many other things constitute our actions, thoughts, activities and the way we conduct our selves that we don't really think that we can control or be controllers of our own life. He also goes on and talks about our “Paradigm Shift”! Which I found really intriguing. You should read more into it.. I am just getting into it so I will share more later. The one thing that I wanted to share with you is how he defines Habit. Here is his definition of

• HABIT = Is an intersection of knowledge, skill and desire.

  • Knowledge – the what to do and why

  • Skill – the how to do

  • Desire – motivation to want to do

Now looking at that how true of a statement is that. Our habits is the one thing that dictates whether we are going to be successful in anything that we do. Sports, Job, Marriage, Friendship or just anything you can really think of. The other thing that I think is so true about creating good habits and also start “inside-out” is that we often here that to be successful you have to surround your self with successful people. That is true in a way, but if your self is not ready to be successful then I don't think it matters who is around you. I used to think that just get to the right spot and the rest will take care of self and I will learn as I go and things will just start to happen. That was all great and if that works for others then I am happy for them. For me it didn't work and I needed to figure what I NEEDED to REALLY succeed. Honestly I didn't know what I had to or where to start. I didn't really have the right focus or mind frame (I used to think I did, but I didn't!). Well I don't want to go on to much the main thing that I am trying to convince myself is I am the one person that will dictate my life or I am the programmer of my life and the next thing I am going to start doing is take control of my life or write my program. Which is going to take a lot to do, but I know this my “paradigm shift” that needs to happen so I can put my life back on the right course for success rather than just stagnant. I always felt like I had the right thoughts and ideas of what I wanted in life, but I never really had the right map for the location that I wanted to get to. Well I am going to start building my mission statement in life and get the right map for the right location. See you all later.

Well this past weekend we got to spend time in Chicago or Chi-Town.. LOL! It was really fun and relaxing. Jeff and Luisa have a wonderful home out there in a great Neighborhood. I was actually surprised how family oriented it was. This trip wasn't a planned tripped it was more of a spur the moment trip lets use this as a mother's day gift. Since you know we fly free and have a free place to stay and all we really needed was food (which Jeff and Luisa took care of since Luisa is Chicago's coupon queen). Before we left we didn't even tell our kids until we picked them up from there Grandma's and Aunt's house in the morning. The flight going there was horrible only because I had to watch the 3 monsters in the back while the Sala and Journey got to sit in first class.
As soon as we landed we were all starving, but we had some famous Chicago style pizza waiting for us at the house. At first glance I wasn't all excited about until we started eating the pizza. This pizza was the BOMB! Seriously, it was very "delightful and delicious" to the taste. I was thinking to myself why don't everyone make this kind of pizza. Anywhoo......
During our stay there we got to go see the United center and see the infamous Jordan statue. The United Center wasn't all that I expected to be, but the Michael Jordan statue was the only important thing that I really wanted to see. Getting into the United center was an adventure in its self we actually had to "break in"... Don't worry we didn't get caught and it wasn't the first time that we broke into a building or house... LOL I am just kidding. I never do anything like that. We also got to go see the Sear's Tower, Oprah Winfrey studio, Solider Field Stadium, Lake Michigan, sites were Dark Knight was filmed and other cool sites. I never thought Chicago would have so much to do.
The best thing that we did in Chicago was just relax, eat, relax, eat, relax and did I say eat! All in all the trip was a blast and it is always nice to go and see family away from family. I am excited for our family reunion that we have coming up in June.

They'll Never Get Me.....

Just yesterday I read I really great post by Setema. Here is the website address if you want to go read it

http://ilgapplied.com/?p=335&cpage=1#comment-25.

The phrase "They'll Never Get Me" he heard from his friend and he asked his friend what he meant by that. The friend said "THEY could take his possessions, his things, his clients and everything else but ‘they’ would never get him. He would always be moving forward and choosing his actions and reactions rather than letting other people and other things choose it for him." Thinking about "They'll never get me" is so true. We all go through a lot in life and we let our natural reaction or intial reaction take over. We let those around us affect the outcome of alot in life. In sports you often hear "The coach doesn't like or the coach has his favorites" or "My boss plays favorites" or "If I just had this then I would be ready to succeed" and many other phrases of doubt or we all know to be excuses.
Personally speaking I have been through and continue to go through a trials in life. It brings me to my post here today. Analyzing my life these past couple of days I have learned a lot. I used to think that I can get through these trials because nothing compares to what I have been through. You know what I was wrong! Seriously wrong! I am the type of person that likes to hold things to myself and keep it there. I feel I am strong enough person to get past all the crap by myself. Recently I realized I can't! Latly I have been playing the victim. Nothing is my fault. I am doing all that I can and your not doing enough or I just tell myself if I can make to next week then things are going to be better. That was wrong of me.
Going through my situation I haven't been doing the best of job on my part. There is many things that I need to change! I have been doing just the minimal in life and feeling sorry for myself. Thinking that I shouldn't be here and I deserve better. Which I know needs to stop. I been making to many excuse and not producing enough results. So as I go through this trial I am going to be making my course correction and getting back on the right path. I honestly feel I have been selling myself and others that I love short because I haven't been doing my best! I know I am capable of alot more and I know I will be producing more results than giving more excuses that I have been. So I am going to make it my goal from today on to "Really Live" and take my life in to my own hands and stop putting on it others why I am where I am. I am going to do all that I can to make sure I get where I need to be. Let it be known that it doesn't matter what it takes in life for me to really live because "They'll never get me!"
So I as I start my "course correction" I know it is going to be a challenge. I know I am going to meet the challenge. So if any of you are like me feel free to join me in making a course correction in life. No better time then the present to make life a greater one. Don't wait for trial like I did to change. Just do the damn thing, but really do it. Start with the little and then work the the big one.
Anyways gots to roll. I will back on my sound board tomorrow!

Peace

Life's a Journey!!

I figure I take some time out to get back on this blogger site and give it an update. I figure I write about life's little journey's. My main reason for writing about this is because I read this quote that I have come to really enjoy and I wanted to share with you all!:

"It is the JOURNEY that one remembers most rather than the END."

Personally with me there has been so many things in life that has been changing. Many expectations that I have for myself and how things should be. After reading this quote it really hit home with me. With so much going on in this world, I at times neglect to remember to enjoy the time that I have with my kids while they are kids or to enjoy the time I have with my wife. All in all just the simple things in life is what I feel I need to enjoy more. I think at times I have been so worried of where I need to go, what I need to do and never really satisfied with what I got. Don't get me wrong I still have goals and expectations to meet, but at the same time I think I was so into what I thought was benefiting my family, but it really wasn't. So as I come to the end of finding another answer to one of my life's little lesson I hope you all enjoyed this quote as much as I did!

HELP

Hello Everyone! I figure I give this a try since there is nothing really to do here at the store. Anyways I will write more later. Just setting this thing up to get it moving and maybe catch the "blog bug" that seems to be hitting everyone that I know. Anyways I will finish fixing this blog later.
Oh yeah! If you "veteran bloggers" have any tips i.e. short cuts, how to make my page look "snazzy", or just anything that you wish you knew when you first started or just your wonderful blogger ideas.

Thank you all for stopping by and posting a "help me" comment.

Thanks and Take Care,

Ron